Monday, we have a holiday, Memorial Day, observed every year since 1868. Nowadays, sometimes the main reason for this holiday is obscured.From USMemorialDay.org: "Memorial Day, originally called Decoration Day, is a day of remembrance for those who have died in our nation's service"Growing up on the South Jersey shore, most of us looked at the Memorial Day weekend as the unofficial kick-off to the summer season, time to stock up the stock of our summer businesses, looking forward to making a year's worth of sales before the Labor Day Weekend.As I grew older, had some friends go into the military, and learned more about the Memorial Day holiday, I felt a little bad about not realizing what it was all about. With all of the conflicts that our country has been going through (and is still involved in), we really do have to slow down a little and give thanks to all who have served and in some cases, given the ultimate sacrifice. So, take a minute, maybe get your flag on and give thanks! We may not believe in why we are in these conflicts, but they are our brothers, sisters, sons and daughters and they deserve our respect and thoughts.Now we have done many columns about Grillin' & BBQ'n here before, but if you are going to do a Memorial Day BBQ, this is the one where you need to kick it up a notch. Do not just throw some burgers, dogs or brats on the grill! Why not make it the best you can be? Make this the one your friends are going to talk about for years!Plan it out. Do some research and really think it out. You can probably do a lot of prep on the weekend so all you have to do on Monday is grill and spend some time with your family and friends.So you still want to do burgers? Hey, that's fine.. but look at some options. How about burgers stuffed with cheese, with grilled onions and maybe some grilled jalapenos?Thinking chicken? Try our Recipe of the Week, Wings over Palisade, which is one of the recipes I have done on stage during the Palisade Peach Festival.But whatever you do, wherever you are: Take a minute and give thanks!Lee is the founder and owner of Decadence Gourmet Cheesecakes and Catering. Reach him at firstname.lastname@example.org, via the website at www.decadencecheesecakes.com, or by calling 970-256-4688. Follow the adventures of Decadence on Facebook and on Twitter.