Catherine Fenske

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FENSKE: Transformation through conscious self-observation

"The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is nothing we can do to change until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds." - R. D. Laing

I don't watch a lot of television, but one night a couple of years ago I remember finding myself in a situation in which I was watching a reality television show. Did you ever see "True Beauty" when it aired at that time?

This was a show about finding the "Face of Vegas" - finding that one person with inner beauty and outer beauty to represent Las Vegas in marketing and luring people to the city. At least that is what I presumed the purpose was. It was really very superficial and meaningless, but I did get an "a-ha" from watching it.

One of the things the producers did to help eliminate contestants was to place hidden cameras in different places and then create a situation that would reveal each contestant's integrity. The contestants had no idea that the situation was staged and being filmed until the moment of their elimination, at which time they watched the segment being displayed on a big screen in front of them.

Of course, they were horrified! (Hopefully, they got an "a-ha" moment themselves about their behavior and choices that they made). Some of them were so embarrassed that they just walked out because they couldn't bear the truth about what they did, especially knowing others witnessed it.

This made me think about being the observer or witness to our own behavior and choices. If we can consciously become the observer of ourselves instead of just walking through life asleep at the wheel, how would that affect the choices we make? Would we become more attuned to compassion and love? Would we start living in our hearts more and begin to start aligning with who we truly are?

If those contestants had it to do over again, knowing someone was watching, do you think they would have made different choices? In the reality show, all they had to lose was the chance to be the "Face of Vegas." In life, what we have to lose is living our lives in abundance and joy. That's a lot to lose! I personally would rather be awake and have joy and love in my life than be asleep and have suffering and struggle.

When you become the observer of your thoughts and actions, you'll begin evolving to a higher spiritual state of being. You will come to the subtle knowing that there is the ego "thinker" aspect of you, and then there is the more evolved spiritual "you" that is the observer. This will immediately expand your consciousness and lead you to higher states of being.

When we awaken to our inner beauty and start becoming the observer of our own lives, we become change agents. We become change agents not only for ourselves, but for the world around us. Then the outer beauty starts to manifest everywhere and in everything. We see people and situations through different eyes. We see through the eyes of compassion, love, peace and wholeness. This, my friends, is transformation.

My coach's request to you this week is to start practicing being the gentle observer of your every thought, word and action. Don't be critical of yourself, just observe. If you see and do things that aren't congruent with whom you truly are - that special being with inner beauty and light - alter your responses. Simple, but powerful! Make note of any changes in your outer experience. And most importantly, tread lightly and enjoy the journey!

Catherine Fenske, Ph.D. (c), is the owner of Live With Intention Coaching. She is a certified life coach and spiritual counselor. She is also a Reiki Master/teacher. Catherine can be reached at 970-985-4499 or at Go to or visit her blog at to learn more about her.

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