Catherine Fenske, Ph.D.

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FENSKE: The God's honest truth

"Truth allows you to live with integrity. Everything you do and say shows the world who you really are. Let it be the Truth." - Oprah WinfreyI think sometimes it is easy to confuse truth with honesty. And there is a difference. In the dictionary, truth is defined as the state of being in accord with a particular fact or reality or being in accord with the body of real things, real events or actualities. It can also mean having fidelity to a standard or ideal. Honesty refers to a facet of moral character and denotes positive, virtuous attributes such as sincere, genuine, straightforward, frank, not deceptive, and not fraudulent along with the absence of lying, cheating and theft.When we look at the difference between truth and honesty - especially on a spiritual level - and how it relates to our interactions with others, we will see that at our core is love. God (or our Higher Self, Divine Intelligence, our Inner Knowing) is love and therefore love is our truth. If we can learn to communicate with each other honestly, then we can lift the curtain that hides the truth and expose it for what it is. The truth being that we are all connected, we are all brothers, we are all one mind, we are all love.Let me put it into perspective so that it makes more sense. Let's say I am in a relationship with a friend. Some of the things she says or does do not feel good to me so instead of harboring resentment I choose to be honest with her. I tell her that sometimes the things she says to me feel like they are belittling me or degrading me. I give her examples. If I'm being totally honest I might even tell her that it is becoming difficult for me to be in relationship with her.Now, as I'm being honest with her in a caring way I can feel the truth bubbling up from within, a felt-sense in the core of my being. That truth is that I deeply care about her and love her. The veil is being lifted that has been covering the truth because of my ability to be honest with her about my feelings. The truth is becoming transparent. It doesn't necessarily mean that our friendship will be salvaged. What it does mean is that by being honest I have uncovered the basic truth that I love her as an extension of and part of all that is and that will never change. Our relationship may change, but my love for her is eternal, that is my truth.My mentor and teacher, Alan Cohen, teaches: "We must be honest before we can be truthful. You cannot express the truth of love if you are harboring major areas of unspoken pain or upset. Be unafraid to speak of your upsets. If you hold your communications with the intention of healing and awakening, they will bring you to the love that is the truth."In being able to speak clearly and honestly to my friend, I was able to keep resentment out of the equation and simply let love reign. It could be a truly healing moment for both of us, regardless of the outcome for the relationship. If this scenario would have been real, I would almost bet that the relationship would have survived and moved up to a higher level of respect and love. By being honest with others we can sometimes bring into the light things that they might otherwise be unaware of. Then the choice is theirs. The way has been paved for a deeper level of understanding. We are standing in our truth and giving them permission through love to stand in theirs.This week I invite you to pay attention to truth and honesty in your interactions with others. It's a great exercise in awareness and can be helpful to not only yourself, but to the people you are in relationship with."Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom." - Thomas JeffersonCatherine Fenske, Ph.D. (c), is the owner of Live With Intention Coaching. She is a certified life coach and spiritual counselor. She is also a Reiki Master/teacher. Catherine can be reached at 970-985-4499 or at Go to or visit her blog at to learn more about her.

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