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FENSKE: Ways to tame your ego

"Gradually the anxious, driven egoic self falls in love with its own Essence and invites its own higher self to take dominion within the 'household of selves.' We overcome the fundamental human illusion that we are separate from each other, from nature and from Spirit." - Barbara Marx HubbardIt seems we humans spend a lot of energy and time battling with our ego. Does this ring true for you? Are you aware of the seemingly constant conflict that goes on in your mind? If so, you're not alone.The "ego" is a word that has been volleyed around among many diverse groups for years and years. You hear the word ego used in psychology, spirituality, religion, philosophy and metaphysics. You hear from some that it is a dark, bad and evil aspect of yourself and something to get rid of if you want to be happy and healthy.I would like to suggest that we look at the ego from another perspective, from a more integral perspective. I like to call this the "taming of the shrew." By that I mean that we can embrace the ego for what it is and tame it to be an ally rather than an adversary for our own well-being and for the evolution of the consciousness of the whole of humanity.We each have an opportunity to play a very important role in this evolution and we can begin by helping our egoic self fall in love with our divinity within. With commitment, willingness and practice we can move from ego to essence and bring our ego along for the journey, not try to rid ourselves of its importance in our evolution to higher consciousness.How do we do this? We begin by acknowledging the job our ego has been doing in our lives to protect us. We thank it for the perpetual watch it has kept over us for our lifetime thus far. We uncover the reasons why we have felt like we needed its protection and look at these beliefs and ask if they are still true for us - do we still feel like we need protection and from what or whom? Most often the answer is "no" because they are usually beliefs we've been holding on to for a long time and we've grown beyond the need for any protection.The next step is to connect with our essence, our Essential Self, our Authentic Self. This is that sacred place within each of us, our place of divinity and who we truly are. We do this by being still and reflective through some form of meditation. We ask to be connected to our Essential Self, to really feel that connection in our hearts. We sit in this energy every day until we know it intimately and start experiencing the divine impulse in that space. We begin to embody that essence and awaken to this divine impulse.When we have attained this level of consciousness we then invite our egoic self to join us there. We want it to experience the love and joy of being in that place where there is no separateness, where there is union and only One. When the egoic self "falls in love" with this divine place, with its own higher self, we start releasing all feelings of fear, anxiety, anger and all lower level feelings and start living in that place of potentiality where anything is possible.We begin to vibrate at a higher frequency and raise our consciousness to become a part of the new enlightenment, the evolutionary enlightenment that is urgently needed right now to co-create a new world, a world of cooperation, coherence and love for all that is.My request for you this week is to consider this perspective of ego. Of course, this is very condensed information in this article but it's a good starting place. When you feel the "anxious, driven egoic self" trying to control this week, invite it to calm down and join you in its own divine essence. That will be your taming of the shrew. Catherine Fenske, Ph.D. (c), is the owner of Live With Intention Coaching. She is a certified life coach and spiritual counselor. She is also a Reiki Master/teacher; body-mind-spirit practitioner and evolutionary. Catherine can be reached at 505-795-7779 or at Go to or visit her blog at to learn more about her.

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