Catherine FenskeJOY TO YOU!Grand Junction Free Press Health & Wellness Columnist

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April 24, 2013
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FENSKE: Lose the crutches

"All of life arises out of choice." - Neale Donald WalschIt seems that many people struggle in life simply reacting to events around them, oblivious to the fact that they help create those events. Like a tiny ship lost at sea, they see themselves battered by all the external circumstances - the waves, the storms, the lightning, the cold, the loneliness - just a little small object subject to the whims of chance.But here is the reality...Allowing yourself to continue to play small in this game of life, to be a victim and blame others for your circumstances is a choice. Now, while I do agree that many people were born victims of circumstance, I don't agree that they must stay that way. Often, we do not have a choice about being victimized, but we do have a choice about STAYING that way and using it as an excuse to stay small and blame others or circumstances.While working for many years in the juvenile justice system, I met several young people who exemplified this principle. Some of these kiddos were from some of the worst circumstances imaginable, and yet somehow at some point they realized they had a choice to completely change their story. And when they did it was transformational beyond belief. They were my first teachers of "conscious creation," although at the time I didn't call it that. They are my heroes and heroines. They are playing big in the game of life.Having the knowledge that they had a choice was their first step to freedom. Once they made the choice to no longer blame or be victims of circumstance, their struggle ended. They realized that staying in victimhood was like being in a literal prison cell. They also realized that they had the key to freedom by consciously choosing and creating a new story for themselves.Conscious creation means that we take 100% responsibility for everything that happens in our world. Everything! This is a big concept to grasp and probably the mother of all lessons to learn. This means that you accept that you are the source of your experience and this is determined by your beliefs, your attitudes and your actions. It has nothing to do with what someone else does, thinks or says. It has nothing to do with the guy who pulled out in front of you. It has nothing to do with the world being an unfair or unfriendly place. It has to do with you...period!Are you ready to quit playing small and believing that external situations are the cause of your present circumstances? Are you ready to play big and know that it is an internal job, that you are an empowered being who is consciously creating your experience? If the young people I mentioned can do it, I know you can also!The denial or more accurately the resistance to your true nature is what keeps you struggling. Joy, peace and abundance are about lovingly accepting WHO and WHERE YOU ARE IN THE MOMENT. It is about consciously creating, focusing on and being grateful for all that you have and not losing yourself in all that you don't have. It is about choosing to play big rather than small. In the end, it is this thought that allows us to live in the flow of unstoppable riches in every area of our lives.This week, I encourage you to continually repeat this mantra: "I create according to my own consciousness." Here's to choosing to be a big player in life and releasing anyone or anything as being the source of your experience except YOU! Step up and be the evolutionary being that you are and came here to be. Choose with the consciousness of the amazing, evolutionary being that is YOU! Catherine Fenske is the owner of Live With Intention Coaching. She is spiritual counselor/teacher, certified life coach, Reiki master/teacher. Catherine can be reached at 505-795-7779 or email at Visit or her blog at

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