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Ah, the single life

Out There
Stina Sieg
Post Independent Staff
Glenwood Springs, CO Colorado

When you’re single, every weekend is a question.

When shacked up with someone, you kind of map out your days in your head. You know where you’ll be spending your Friday night (and probably Saturday morning), and you reserve a big chunk of your energy for those flirtatious interactions. But when you’re on your own, your weekends are a blank page, the wild west, the great unknown.

And for the first time in long while, I’m excited about that.

I’m not anti-men or couples or holding hands in public (OK, maybe I am against the hands thing). I do revel in the security of being with a fellow. I miss it.

But at this moment, I’m thinking, what can I create without all that?

These weekends, I could enter a world of reading, knitting and cooking ” total homebody stuff. I could go for massive road trips and hit up all my favorites ” Moab, Paonia, Leadville. I could learn some new skill or meet some new person. I could go see a bad movie and not worry what the viewer next to me is thinking. I could hang out with some of my fellow single female friends and talk about all those things guys imagine we talk about.

The truth is, almost all the biggest shifts in my life have happened while I was solo. I’ve moved, traveled and changed jobs, all as a single gal. Maybe being alone clears my head and sharpens my senses. Perhaps it just puts a fire in me to change. If being bored is the gateway to creativity, perhaps then, so is feeling lonesome.

So tonight, tomorrow and Sunday, I’m going to do my best to harness that possibility. Sometimes I wonder if life shouldn’t be like this, if I should be able to give my energy to every part of my world equally, even when a man is in the picture. I don’t know. But something about this stretch of singledom feels as it should be. As the western folk say, it’s time to cowboy up.

Back in the saddle again.

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