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FENSKE: Free yourself from negative self-talk

Catherine Fenske
Free Press Health Columnist
Catherine Fenske
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“One way we can know that we are aligned with the life force that is God is that we feel more and more alive. Notice what gives you aliveness and what diminishes you, deadens and numbs you so that you only skim the surface of life. Begin to say yes to what quickens and energizes, to that which brings joy and gratitude. — Mary Manin Morrissey

I was talking with a dear friend the other day and we were sharing how we each have grown in our awareness of what to say “YES” to and then taking inspired action, knowing we’ll be supported in and guided to the results we desire.

It has not always been that way for me. I’ve had a lot of great ideas, and sometimes I’d even get started on them, but then something would stop me. That something was my fearful, self-sabotaging thoughts such as: “This isn’t going to work,” “No one will want this,” or “No one will buy that.” It was my “protector” thoughts coming from my ego self wanting to keep me safe from disappointment, failure and hurt.

I laughed when I realized this because in trying to protect me, my little ego totally sabotaged any chance of success! Now when I get an idea and I intuitively hear and feel this big “YES!” I am totally aware of those self-sabotaging, limiting voices in my head and I push them aside gently. I do what I am guided to do through my intuition and let go of the fears wanting to hold me back and keep me safe.

Besides, so what if I fail? I will have learned something. So what if it doesn’t work? I can try a new approach that just might work better. So what if someone is envious of my success? (Yes, this fear has come up, too!) It really is none of my business if they are.

Facing and questioning limiting beliefs is so incredibly freeing. Hearing the great big “YES” and then following through to the end in trust and faith sometimes requires a big leap. It requires consciously freeing yourself from your ego in that moment and knowing that all it is trying to do is keep you safe. Staying aware and really seeing the fallacy of the sometimes misguided beliefs or thoughts brought on by the ego allows you to consciously make decisions that are perfect for you.

Become aware of this part of you, the one that convinces you to “stop trying,” or “you’ll never get it right, so forget it,” or “you’ll just keep wasting your time, money and energy, so stop while you are ahead.” If you continue to let your thoughts build momentum in this direction, you cut off all other possibilities. You lose steam and you quit.

The next time an idea comes up that feels good and conjures up a big “YES” in your heart and soul, go ahead and let those protective, limiting voices come up. Then, stand up to them and acknowledge them for their protective role and send them on their way. Now, move full steam ahead and know you have the power within you, literally as YOU, to create the end results you wish for. Saying “YES” means getting up and acting on the belief that you can create meaning and purpose in whatever life brings your way.

I know it never seems like it at the time, but you always have the power to choose your thoughts. Your thoughts don’t control you, you control them. Let those “voices” know who’s really in command! Then go forth and let all those great ideas flourish! They’ve been given to you for a reason. You just have to say “YES” and trust that the source of that idea wants that idea to succeed as much as you do!

“As I say ‘YES’ to life, life says yes to me!” — Louise Hay

Catherine Fenske is the owner of Live With Intention Coaching. She is spiritual counselor/teacher, certified life coach, Reiki master/teacher. Catherine can be reached at 970-640-6987 or email at catherine@livewithintentioncoaching.com. Visit http://www.livewithintentioncoaching.com or her blog at http://fromblocked2bliss. wordpress.com.

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