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FENSKE: Feeling ‘stuck’ with no way out?

Catherine Fenske
Free Press Health Columnist
Catherine Fenske
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“Being stuck is a position few of us like. We want something new but cannot let go of the old — old ideas, beliefs, habits, even thoughts. We are out of contact with our own genius. Sometimes we know we are stuck; sometimes we don’t. In both cases we have to DO something.” — Rush Limbaugh

Each one of us gets stuck at some point in our lives. It could be in a relationship that is no longer healthy for us, a job that no longer motivates or fulfills us, weight gain that just doesn’t seem to come off no matter what diet we try, or any number of other things that keep us from moving forward toward the joy we deserve. There are many reasons that people get stuck and seem to “spin their wheels.”

There are some people who live their life on autopilot, who believe that life just happens. They believe that no matter what they do, things just don’t seem to work out the way they want. They believe that there is a certain randomness to the events, circumstances or conditions in their lives and that there is no purpose, rhyme or reason as to why things happen the way they do. They feel as if they have no control over their lives and they stay stuck in this pattern of trudging through life.

For some people, the fear of the unknown is so great that they would rather stay in the same place. They want to change the situation because they are not happy with how things are. But the “what ifs” start creeping in. “What if I leave this relationship and I never find another person to be my mate.” “What if I quit my job that I really don’t like, that I hate going to every day, and I don’t find one that pays as well or that I like.”

For these people, staying where they are seems safe and at least they know what to expect. They don’t know how to trust their inner knowing, their higher Self, and have forgotten who they truly are. Instead of playing BIG they continue to play small in this game of life. They choose to play it safe and stay where they are … unfulfilled, unhappy, unmotivated but safe.

Trusting yourself is a major sign of surrendering to the flow of life and aligning yourself to Source Energy. Trusting yourself can be difficult because as children, most of us were taught to listen to the adults in our lives. Our own intuition was not nurtured.

The more you learn how to nurture and listen to your deep voice within, the easier it is for you to start trusting yourself again. As you move higher up the levels of awareness, you will find that your small, still voice gets louder and louder.

Once you start “hearing” your inner voice, the next step is to trust it and dare to act on it. This takes practice and a lot of courage. If you do choose to start trusting your inner knowing, however, you will start to take actions to move forward and get out of your “stuck-ness.”

Do you identify with any of the scenarios above? Can you imagine the possibility of a new direction, a more fulfilling life if you take the steps to move out of the beliefs that are keeping you stuck? Can you accept help and guidance from your inner voice to gain your freedom? What is it worth to you?

This week I invite you to look at an area in your life where you feel stuck and ask yourself what is keeping you from moving forward. Is it because you have lost your sense of personal power? Is it a fear of the unknown? Is it because safety, although bland and uninspiring, is easier than the thought of freedom and the work it will take to get there from where you are now? Enjoy the process of reflection and self-inquiry. Who knows, it might lead you out of the rut!

Catherine Fenske is the owner of Live With Intention Coaching. She is spiritual counselor/teacher, certified life coach, Reiki master/teacher. Catherine can be reached at 505-795-7779 or email at catherine@livewithintentioncoaching.com. Visit http://www.livewithintentioncoaching.com or her blog at http://fromblocked2bliss.wordpress.com.

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