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FENSKE: Happiness is your birthright; go out there and claim it

Catherine Fenske
Free Press Health Columnist
Catherine Fenske
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Have you ever just watched children interact with their world? Have you watched them without judgment or criticism, with just pure curiosity and wonder? Children have a way, an innocence that takes us back home, back to our essence of awe and love, of God-ness.

I love watching my granddaughter, Sophia, who is 3 1/2 years old. Everything is an adventure for her. Her little body just shakes with excitement at the smallest thing and she finds happiness for no reason at all. She wakes up with a smile, simply happy to be alive. Every moment is new and filled with wonder in her world.

Children are our best teachers. They teach us what it was like for us before we started stuffing our feelings and sense of adventure because people in our lives couldn’t or wouldn’t deal with them. They teach us that life is meant to be enjoyed and that happiness is our birthright. They teach us how to see the world through the eyes of wonder. They teach us about miracles and they teach us about unconditional love.

So when do we lose our childlike wonder? How does it happen? When we start getting the messages from other people in our lives — parents, older siblings, day-care providers, teachers — that we are less than we are, we start taking those aspects of ourselves and stash them away, out of sight and memory. When we hear messages like, “No, you can’t do that,” “Who do you think you are?,” “You’re not big enough,” “You’re such a bad little boy/girl,” “That’s not the right way to do it,” “Shame on you,” “Because I said so,” we begin to believe these messages. We then start limiting ourselves because if someone said it was so, it must be true. We start playing small in the game of life and we give our power, our truth away.

“In this life creative adventure the criterion will be … the courage to let go of the past, with its truths, its goals, its dogmas of ‘meaning,’ and its gifts: to die to the world and come to birth from within.”
— Joseph Campbell

What are some of the messages you received as a child that could possibly be limiting your greatness today? If you dig deep enough and are willing to find the answers you will start healing the wounds of childhood and live in the magnitude and magnificence of who you really are. Start nurturing that little child within who was lost so long ago. Lovingly bring that child out to play, observe and adventure once again.

Imagine seeing the world with innocence just like when you were a child. Dare to see each moment as brand new with a fresh opportunity just there for the taking. Every day awaken with a smile and utter excitement for what you will learn, explore, discover and enjoy. Imagine witnessing miracle after miracle each day and the gratitude you will feel for each one. Imagine, if you will, no longer limiting yourself by your old beliefs and playing small, but instead see infinite possibilities and see yourself as considerably huge in this game of life.

I challenge you to take some time this week to reflect on the messages that you received as a child. Do they serve you any longer or are they holding you back from being the greatest you can be? What beliefs can you replace the old ones with that will allow you to play big? Most importantly, remember your magnificence! That’s who you are and always have been!

Catherine Fenske is the owner of Live With Intention Coaching. She is spiritual counselor/teacher, certified life coach, Reiki master/teacher. Catherine can be reached at 970-640-6987 or email at catherine@livewithintentioncoaching.com. Visit http://www.livewithintentioncoaching.com or her blog at http://fromblocked 2bliss.wordpress.com.

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