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FENSKE: Slipping into that well-known place of judging others

Catherine Fenske
Free Press Health Columnist
Catherine Fenske
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“Give me the strength to go beyond judgment, that I may meet everyone in the domain of the heart.” — Alan Cohen

How quick we are to judge people. We judge those who look different than our ideal, we judge those who beg on the streets, we judge those who have tattoos and haircuts that are out of the “norm,” we judge those who have a different color of skin than we do, we judge those who are less fortunate than we are. We judge and judge and judge.

Sometimes in our judgments of others we fear them because of the beliefs we attach to them about what kind of person they are because of how they look and/or behave. We don’t take the time to talk or get to know them and instead avoid them and have no eye contact, no contact whatsoever with them.

Does this ring true for you? I know it does for me sometimes as much as I don’t like to admit it. It is one of the lessons I am working on and have been for a while. I am getting better at accepting people for who they truly are, which is who I truly am and who you truly are — spiritual beings doing the best we can on our earthly journey. Sometimes I regress or slip and fall into that well-known place of judging, only to be kicked in the backside by an angel bringing me back to awareness.

That’s when I remember that “I AM” here and “I AM” there. “I AM” me and “I AM” you. Everywhere God is “I AM” and so are you. We are all in this together and when we remember this we have no reason or desire to judge.

I was given the opportunity to put this into practice the other day while having lunch with a friend on a patio at a restaurant. We had just sat down when a man started approaching us. I didn’t see him until my friend started talking to him in an assertive voice, telling him we didn’t want to be bothered and we wouldn’t give him money.

As she was saying this to him I looked up and saw a poorly dressed man who was disheveled and appeared dirty. He told her he wasn’t begging for money and he just wanted to sit at the table next to us to wait for his kids who were joining him. Her fear kicked in and she told me she was uncomfortable and wanted to move to another table.

I obliged my friend because I could see that she really was uncomfortable, but in my mind I was wondering what his story really was. He seemed harmless to me and I didn’t get a sense of danger or ill will. I felt a certain kinship with him and I know it was because I was in a state of love, not fear. I was feeling and remembering the “I AM” presence within me that was also in him.

His kids did join him and what my friend had judged about him — that he was a vagrant and wanted money from us — was not the truth. The truth was that he was just a man waiting to have lunch with his children. He looked different from her ideal and fit more into the belief she had that someone who looked like him would surely be begging for money.

This situation was a chance for me to witness firsthand how judgment can color our perspective. It taught me yet another lesson in reaching beyond my human comfort zone and step into my spiritual comfort zone and meet people in the “domain of the heart.” When we can connect heart to heart, fear will dissolve and we can work together to heal the wounds of humanity.

I challenge you this week to connect with strangers, especially those you would most be in judgment of. Say a nice hello with sincerity and eye contact at the very least. Drop into the powerful energy of the heart and radiate that energy to them as you say hello. Pay attention to how you feel when you do this because this is the feeling of the “I AM” presence, God in motion, within you.

Catherine Fenske is the owner of Live With Intention Coaching. She is spiritual counselor/teacher, certified life coach, Reiki master/teacher. Catherine can be reached at 970-640-6987 or email at catherine@livewithintentioncoaching.com. Visit http://www.livewithintentioncoaching.com or her blog at http://fromblocked2bliss.wordpress.com.

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