Guest opinion: Women who have abortions aren’t wicked
What “right to lifers” fail to comprehend is that life is not limited to the dimension of reality we’re currently inhabiting. Life is eternal. The universe is unlimited. If a soul is denied entrance into this plane through a particular woman, it will find its expression elsewhere.
I’ve never had an abortion and I’m not advocating it as a method of birth control. Ideally, both women and men would be conscientious enough to always take precautions. Unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen. Everyone makes mistakes. Forcing women to go through with unwanted pregnancies has consequences.
My biological mother subscribes to an evangelical doctrine, so when she got pregnant out of wedlock, abortion was not an option. As an unwelcome child given up for adoption, I can tell you that separation from the mother I gestated in for nine months was devastating. It took tremendous effort to overcome what felt like rejection on a cellular level. It profoundly impacted her and she’s never come to terms with it. Having a child and giving it up alters both lives.
Being forced to have a child, provide for and raise it, alters lives. I’ve seen many clients who have had their dreams derailed by unplanned children. These women love their kids, yet many have gotten stuck in stifling jobs because of their obligations. How well does that serve? Some are able to get back on a more fulfilling track, others not. Children know when they’re not wanted, and the psychological damage scars.
One client was certain she didn’t want to marry her boyfriend. She didn’t want more children and she was ready to leave. When she started moving out, she discovered she was pregnant. She had contracted herpes, as well. Because of the outbreak, the abortion couldn’t be performed right away, she would have to wait several weeks. In that time, the pressure got to her and she was unable to remain true to herself. She talked herself into having the child and settled with marrying. It was hard to watch. I’ve lost contact with her, so I don’t know how it turned out.
I’ve seen numerous clients who have had abortions. It’s taken them monumental effort to work through the guilt and mourning, and move on. Much of their suffering is influenced by a demonizing culture. This culture makes unfounded claims that not only are women who have abortions wicked, they’re more likely to end up experiencing long-term mental health consequences, and even physical ailments such as cancer.
According to Anna M. Peterson, a history professor at Luther College, “prior to the late 19th century, aborting an early pregnancy was considered a private matter controlled by women and was not a crime. Most people did not believe human life was present until a woman felt the first fetal movements, a phenomenon referred to as quickening. Prior to quickening, they took herbal abortifacients. The practice was not considered abortion.
“In the late 19th century, doctors, social reformers, clergy members and politicians made abortion unto a social, political and religious issue. Women’s experiences of quickening were discredited as unscientific and medical doctors became the recognized experts on pregnancy and fetal development. Doctors lobbied state governments to change laws to reflect their new way of thinking. By 1900, Western European countries and the United States had outlawed abortion during all stages of pregnancy.
“Increased scrutiny of pregnancy and childbirth coincided with a push by doctors to increase their professional influence. In the United States, the newly created American Medical Association initiated an antiabortion campaign in 1857 as part of its efforts to professionalize and to restrict competition from homeopaths and midwives.
“By 1900, abortion had been culturally and politically redefined as the taking of a human life. The shift in attitudes that had been championed by doctors and church officials led politicians to enact antiabortion legislation. What had once been considered a private matter had become a public concern worthy of punishment. Women’s efforts to control their fertility were deemed criminal.”
Humanity is evolving. Eventually, everyone will recognize their eternal nature and be connected to it. They’ll no longer try to impose limited beliefs on others. They’ll have respect for all of life.
When people are mindful, there will be less need for abortion. If required, it will be done consciously. As Carolyn Myss has said, when a mother communicates with the soul of the incoming child and tells it the time’s not right, it may self-abort. If abortion is performed consciously, it doesn’t become as traumatic. Everything is in divine order, always. Eventually all will know that we are responsible for our choices, and that all women have the right to make theirs.
Jane St. Croix Ireland is an intuitive reader and teacher. For more than a decade, she’s helped people across the county reach their potential and live healthy, happy, successful, abundant, fulfilling lives. You may view her work and other writings at janestcroix.com.
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