Torres column: Don’t let life’s difficulties keep you from reaching your goals
It took me 3 years to tone my body. This is why body toning is only for people with OCD.
When I was young I liked to play video games. Back in the day when Nintendo was the new toy, I played a game called Mega Man. I loved that game. It had different levels and bosses to defeat. This is one of the reasons I used to wake up in the morning. If I could, I would play all morning, I would take a break to eat and go back to play until dark or until I was tired enough to go to sleep.
Even though the game was fun, I was defeated many times, and I needed to repeat a mission, and I spend hours doing it. I think the difficulty made it even more fun.
When I learned how to drive, I was the same way. I am from a very poor family. We had no money for shoes, so a car was an unreachable dream. Therefore, I started hanging out with people who work as drivers. I bugged them and got on their nerves until they taught me how to drive.
When I decided to get in shape and tone my body, I was obsessively exercising until I reached my goal. When I was learning English, I read, wrote and practiced until I could communicate. When there is a problem I don’t stop until I find a solution. When I find something I want, I don’t stop until I get it.
This is called Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).
My level of commitment with myself is to the point that I will succeed or fail. For example, starting a business and signing a commercial lease is either all in or all out. I either sign the lease or walk out, but I don’t do it half way. I get into debt and deliver results to my clients, and whether I succeed or I fail I pay the debt. When I know I am going to become obsessive to make something work, all I need to do is commit and take massive action to achieve my goal. I am extreme.
Those who I have seen achieve their dreams — such as toning their bodies — are happy and have changed the world. They are OCD and are committed to their dreams, because, just like the video game, real life will bring difficulties and will defeat us, hurt us and plan something different than we have planned. We are going to fail, suffer, but when we are not willing to give up and continue moving forward with passion, the world has a unique way to make our dreams come true.
This is one of the reasons less than 5 percent of people can lose weight and maintain a healthy body for the rest of their lives. This is the reason less than 5 percent of people love their career. This is why only 5 percent of people continue progressing in making changes in their lives and others’ lives.
I have been rejected, mistreated and humiliated. Nobody likes to be rejected, mistreated or humiliated, especially humiliated, but those are the risks I am willing to take to learn and grow and become stronger. I won’t stop until I reach my goal.
I honestly think the biggest reason why many people can’t reach their fitness goals or any other goal is because of life’s difficulties. The key to overcoming life’s difficulties and becoming fulfilled is to be obsessive compulsive, be extreme and be committed until the end. When I fail I don’t regret it, because I know I gave it my all, and when I succeed I know that I am part of the less-than-5-percent.
Sandro Torres is owner of Custom Body Fitness in Carbondale and Glenwood Springs and author of the book “Lose Weight Permanently.” His column appears on the second and fourth Tuesdays of the month in Body & More.