Torres column: Success will choose the person who is ready to keep it
Let’s say that you find the guy or woman of your dreams. He or she is everything you were dreaming of. Your new partner is loyal, understanding, patient, successful, caring, fit and knowledgeable, knows how to treat you and knows how to love people.
But you don’t have even half of the habits this person has; instead you like open relationships, you get desperate when things are not the way you want them to be, you don’t like to get in your partner’s shoes, you barely are making it through life, you don’t really care about others, you don’t exercise, you don’t like to read, or you don’t know how to give love. How happy do you think you are going to be in the relationship? Or can you even sustain the relationship?
Or let’s say you find someone just like you, do you think that relationship will be sustainable?
Let me give you another example: Let’s say your body dies because you have not taken care of it; your brain is still alive, and there is a way your brain can be transferred to a fit body. Do you think you can keep your new body fit for long? What would happen if your brain got transferred to another mistreated body?
Or let’s say you are broke because you spend your money recklessly, and you win $100,000. Do you think you are going to be able to double that money or even hold onto it? Chances are that you are going to end up with $0 again.
I used to be this person. I could not keep something good in my life because of the bad habits I had, and I could not see the light or better days because of it.
I remember wanting everything to be great, but I was not suited for that. It is like if someone gave me a successful business and let me run it: I could have made any successful business go bankrupt. I had no skills, knowledge or passion to run one.
To have great relationships, a fit body, financial freedom, a successful business or anything in between, we must become the person who can achieve what we want.
Now I don’t ask for people to meet my demands. I ask myself to meet people’s demands. I have raised my standards and become the person I want to become to sustain the lifestyle I want.
To have great relationships we have to become likable and work in all areas of our lives, such as thoughts, behaviors, caring about others, understanding, patience, etc. To have a fit body we must exercise and eat healthily. To have a successful business we must deliver what we promise and give more value than people are expecting. To be financially free we must know how to play the game.
The problem with many of us, including me, is that we want everything to come easily, but we are not willing to work for it. I hear that we don’t need to pursue success: Success is looking for a good place to stay and will choose only the person who is ready to keep it.
It is very simple. It’s nothing you don’t know. This article is only a wakeup call. You have everything it takes to become the person you want to become. You want a functional relationship, work for it. You want to lose weight and be fit, work for it; you want to be financially free, work for it; you want to have a successful business, work for it; you want to be smart, work for it; you want to be a great leader, work for it; you want to be happy and very successful in all areas of your life, become the person that can make it happen.
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being overweight, or going through failed relationships, or being in debt all the time and living paycheck to paycheck, or giving up on your business dream, or not having enough knowledge or passion to overcome adversity, or being unhappy. I think we all have free will, and we can do anything we want, and you, just like me, have the right to practice your free will.
The only thing I want is to help you change your life and let you know that you have the potential to become the person you want to be when you are ready. Nothing would make me happier than seeing you achieve your dream.
Sandro Torres is owner of Custom Body Fitness in Carbondale, author of the book “Lose Weight Permanently” and a Watch Fit columnist. His column appears on the second and fourth Tuesdays of the month in Body & More.
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