Torres column: To have an above-average life become an above-average person
I used to believe that some event would magically change my life, such as winning the lottery or finding a job that pays more. I was not sure what the event was, but I was hoping that it would happen soon. I wanted to have a better life, but I left it to destiny.
I wanted a quick fix for my mediocre life. I did not realize that my life was mediocre because I was mediocre. I thought that my destiny was already set and that I had no control over it.
Many of us have this mentality, and we want life to be better even though we don’t better ourselves. Losing weight, for example, has become a million-dollar industry. There are lotions, belts, easy exercise programs, diets, supplements, surgeries, hormones, therapy, pills, earrings and many other things. A famous publicity slogan is “Give the customers what they’re looking for.” Therefore, we find that the customer is looking for “fast and easy” even though it neither works nor is sustainable.
Many people want to win the lottery thinking it will get them out of their misery, and others want a fast and easy way to lose weight. Yes, a few do win the lottery and some do lose weight fast, but soon we find these people poor again or regaining the weight or even putting on more weight.
After 28 years of mediocre life, finally the event that needed to happen happened, but it was not what I had planned. However, what I learned was more important than winning the lottery. I learned that if I wanted an above-average life I needed to become an above-average person. Before this realization, if I would have won the lottery, I would have ended up just like Mike Tyson.
Mike Tyson made more than one quarter of a billion dollars, yet he ended up poor. How could he have spent so much money? It’s simple: Just like the person who loses weight by surgery or some promising therapy and regains it in months or a couple of years, Mike Tyson did not become above average in his life. He did not develop the habits to maintain what he made.
The lesson I learned is very simple: If I want a better life, body, family, business, career, financial status or mind I need to become better than who I am right now. Hence, if you are looking to lose weight or be financially free or have a better job, you must work on yourself. One of the things that does not seem to work is looking for an extraordinary body, job or life without becoming extraordinary. I was frustrated for many years doing that until I decided to work on myself.
The best investment you can make in life is in yourself. This is so powerful that it’s worth repeating: The best investment you can make in life is in yourself. So if you are ready to have a better body, career or life, start working on yourself step by step. Find out what you need to work on to get what you need or want and determine the habits you need to sustain such body, career and overall life.
There is no better life-changing event than the one you are willing to make.
Sandro Torres is owner of Custom Body Fitness in Carbondale, author of the book “Lose Weight Permanently” and a Watch Fit columnist. His column appears on the second and fourth Tuesdays of the month in Body & More.
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