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Love, marriage and a little elbow grease

April E. Clark
Post Independent
Glenwood Springs, CO Colorado
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I know five couples getting married in the next three months. This may be completely coincidental. Or it could mean I might actually be the last living single person on the face of the earth.

Or at least living in my neighborhood.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m beyond excited and happy for these wonderful in-love friends getting hitched. Knowing that many couples crazy in love, who actually want to spend the rest of their lives with each other, is reassuring. Love does conquer all.

Especially the ones willing to be conquered.

I understand that love – especially the marital kind – takes work. Sleeves must be rolled up and repairs must be done. True love takes elbow grease and, sometimes, whiskey. Soul mates might seem as if they magically drop out of the sky like rain on a drought-ridden landscape, when they’re needed the most. But they are more like plants in a garden. They can’t be what you need them to be without fertilizing and talking sweetly to them every now and again.

My tomatoes seem to like it.

Sure, there’s a chance I might grow old alone talking to my tomato plants and listening to old school rap stations on Pandora. The former is rather therapeutic. The latter makes for great Facebook status updates. The problem is soul mates don’t really seem to be falling from the sky these days.

But rain has, which is great for the tomatoes.

As my multiple sets of friends prepare for their impending nuptials, of course this makes me think about soul mates and the lack thereof. I can’t even find a euchre partner around these parts.

Let alone a partner in life.

I have learned quite a bit about love from my friends getting married. I know it’s possible to date someone in high school and 20 years later marry him. There’s always second chances at love, especially when least expected. Something as simple as a plastic disc can bring two people together for life. And a simple crush on a drummer in a band can turn into something spectacular.

Especially when he finds out after your friend says, “She wants to have your babies.”

What excites me the most about these five couples getting married is odds are at least one baby is going to come out of it. Or maybe 15. Time will tell. All I know is that I love when my friends have babies. It’s great to watch how love continues to grow in that way, starting with two people who can’t live without each other. Soon they have a person or persons in the mix that can’t live without them, either. I could compare this to growing tomato plants, but something tells me it’s not quite the same.

Especially the birthing part.

If asked, I imagine all the couples would probably tell me they knew when they met their significant others that they would one day marry. If not, then they probably wouldn’t be getting married. Maybe it wasn’t always love at first sight, but there was a feeling of just knowing. Those insights makes being in love seem like no work at all, even when it is. To experience that feeling of knowing you have a forever friend, lover and teammate makes life so much sweeter. Knowing how fantastic that really feels makes being single the tough part. At least for me. Maybe it’s more work than actually being in love.

Pass the elbow grease and whiskey.

April E. Clark wishes Kendra and Dane, Rob and Vicki, Sarah and John, Matthew and Alexis and Taryne and Joe lifetimes of happiness and wedded bliss. She can be reached at aprilelizabethclark @yahoo.com.


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