Believe in yourself and achieve your goal
Glenwood Springs, CO Colorado
Have you ever stated a goal or dream out loud and then automatically wished you hadn’t? It seems that in our heads, our goals and dreams sound great. However, once said, they become real. Why is it that our dreams and goals become frightening when spoken for others to hear? Is it the fear of failure, the fear of action, or the fear of follow-through?
I just had this experience the other day. I happened to say to the personal trainer that I am working with that my goal is to complete a triathlon. Now for seasoned athletes, this may seem like no big deal. But for me, this is a huge hurdle. It has been a goal that has been in my head for some time. Once I said it, I instantly regretted it.
At YouthZone, we often speak of the different stages of change. It is a concept we use in our groups and individually with our clients. The stages of change are a little like climbing stairs. Sometimes we are on the bottom, which is called pre-contemplative. It is where we store our ideas but don’t really want to move from that point. Then there is the contemplative stage. This is the stage where we start to get excited about our goals and dreams. We want to change. This is the stage I was in when I was speaking to my trainer. Next is the preparation stage. This is when we take the necessary steps to get ready for the action stage. For me, this would be shopping for a bike, purchasing swimming goggles and doing weight-training. The action stage is when we are doing what we had in mind. This would be the execution of starting and completing the triathlon.
Personally, what I found to be most frightening is that I was admitting things to somebody else. First, I was stating that I had a goal or dream. Bringing it out of my mind and speaking it allowed someone else to believe in me and cheer me on.
Second, it was frightening to have someone believe in me so much, and not having the self-confidence to believe in myself.
I realized I may be in the same stage as some of the young people I work with on a daily basis. There may even be a time when I return to the pre-contemplative stage. This doesn’t mean I have failed. Rather, it allows for me to take a deep breath and try again.
If you find yourself in the same position in any area of your life, I encourage you to let yourself stay in the stage long enough to learn and self-examine. If you are ready to move on but aren’t sure how to get there, give YouthZone a call. We can learn together.
Jenna Roe is a YouthZone case
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