Styx, it’s time for an update on your ’80s hit “Mr. Roboto.”But this time around, the lyrics will say, “Domo arigato, Ms. Femroboto.”A recent WebMD feature in Marie Claire magazine discusses fembots, who are taking over the dating scene. And watch out – these women are also taking no prisoners.These aren’t the female robots from science fiction books, the “Bionic Woman” or Austin Powers movies. They’re real women. And like the ’70s perfume commercial jingle, they’re bringing home the vegetarian bacon and frying it up in the pan.They’re also whipping up a chocolate soufflé and washing it down with champagne. All the while watching “The Hills” or “Grey’s Anatomy” without a husband complaining in the background.Sounds too good to be true.Fembots are not fantasy – they’re reality. And they’re multiplying.
The article’s author, Theresa O’Rourke, describes fembots as “the cool, together, emotionally unavailable girl one cube over.”Sounds like the female version of one of my ex-boyfriends.These are women taking on roles formerly held by many men. Work is a priority – getting married and having babies are not what drives these ladies. Relationships are more casual than committed. And space is a requirement, not a place for astronauts to explore.Again with the uncanny ex-boyfriend similarities.Guys attracted to the submissive type would not like a fembot. Lucky for them, there are blow-up dolls. They listen to everything you say, and don’t talk back.And they’re really cheap dates.I’m happy to hear society’s finally coming around in recognizing what many women these days want. And it’s more than just a man who will talk freely about his emotions or do more housework.
My sense of independence trumps a sensitive man any day.”Fembotism,” as it’s called, seems to be more than just a passing fancy among women. A Gallup poll recently found that 58 percent of women would rather work outside the home than stay at home and care for a family and a house.This is not my grandmother’s world. But who said she really wanted to stay at home anyway?Female empowerment also extends to dating. An AARP study shows that 34 percent of women older than 40 date younger men. That was back in 2004, so think about what three years has done to that percentage.That’s not the only thing seeing a rise.Even the term “cougar” – what older women dating younger men are called – has become so mainstream, it’s the first listing that comes up on a Google search.I prefer to be called a puma.
Mostly because I like the shoes.As popular as it is, there’s some negativity associated with older women dating younger men. An example is the ending to one Urban Dictionary entry, “I bagged a cougar last night at the club.”Obviously a man wrote that one. There’s nothing like the term “bagged” to make you feel like a woman.But fembots garner their power from defying typical roles set by society for women. And they’re not afraid to use it.They’re coming to an office near you …April E. Clark isn’t exactly a fembot because she’s been known to be emotionally available a time or two. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org and 945-8515, ext. 16601.
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