The strength of real men is not necessarily physical |

The strength of real men is not necessarily physical

Out on a LimbRoss L. TalbottGlenwood Springs, CO Colorado

My dad used to say, “Don’t drive your hogs to a poor market.” After accusing today’s young women of doing just that, it’s only fair to turn the cannon around. The resulting emotional, physical and spiritual damage from cheap, self-serving relationships is not just one-sided.Many young men of today are certainly nothing to brag about. A member of the genus Homo, class Mammalia, characterized by upright posture and an opposable thumb. Add to that numerous tattoos, piercings, baggy pants, funky hair, laziness, irresponsibility and disrespect of authority, and you have an updated description of so-called men.They still have opposable thumbs, which are handy for rolling smokes of various kinds.If you are a “real man” then you are an athlete, especially a football player. That hierarchy has quarterbacks at the top and works down to golf. Definitely, the amount of beer you can consume and still do well in a bar fight seems to be important.None of the foregoing, sarcastically listed characteristics contribute to stable families or a strong peaceful society. They are all self-serving and self-focused. Even the much-celebrated sport of football teaches that success is the result of brute strength and clever deception. That’s not a good way to run a family or a business. How loud you can talk or how filthy your profanity is really not a useful skill unless you are a gang member.What then, really constitutes real manliness? Well, strength is probably primary but muscle strength is at the bottom of the strength list. The primary need of our women and our children is security, and that is real men’s responsibility. Strength of commitment, strength of character, faithfulness, loyalty and honesty are all strength issues.Relationship without commitment is weakness. Creating babies and then walking away is weak and selfish. It ranks in the same class as stealing from your employer, cheating on your taxes and betraying your country.A good man is one who can look in the mirror and say, “I’d rather starve to death than steal.” A real man can look at the needs of others and help them. Real men don’t need to cheat or lie to survive. Who do you know that would sacrifice to help you? Who puts the needs of their family ahead of their own wants?If disaster strikes, who can you count on? Who makes you feel safer when they are around? In case of war, who do you want by your side?Above all else, a real man is one who is a father to the children he sires. Too many people today either don’t know who their father was or where he is.How can a boy grow up to be a real man if there is no strong male leadership in his home? This is especially true if his mother was abandoned by his father and has a justifiably bad attitude about the male gender.I am grateful that there are men in this community that I class as real men and in whom I trust and upon whom I can depend, but I feel they are a minority.My dad was my security, my safe haven, my teacher, the protector of my mother and my identity.The Bible says, “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.” Think about that. It means that you take all the blame, even if it kills you. Are you man enough for that?Ross L. Talbott lives in New Castle.

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