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Letter: Not a life anyone should have to live

Many of us live in denial when it comes to abuse.

It can be seen and felt in many ways, but with few exceptions, in cases of direct physical abuse in the home between spouses, it is the male who dominates. It can lead to domineering attitudes and humbling the other party, forcing them to live in a state of controlled fear.

This is not love and it is not a life anyone should have to live. When the time comes that reason and understanding can no longer resolve the issue and it turns to physical abuse, then love is lost. Today, however, many couples live in this hell, and its secrets eventually begin to leak out.

There are no excuses, and when it becomes known it devastates everyone involved. When it is a sports star or a celebrity it can destroy a lucrative career as well as their family life. Such is the case with Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice and his then-fiancée who is now his wife. Was it unconditional love, money or an attempt to help him recover from the incident, saving his career that she caved into marriage? Perhaps all of the above, but it doesn’t stop there.

The NFL and its failure to act decisively has a part in this story. Now they are forced to act, but how do they think his fiancée got knocked out to begin with? Did it take another video to open their eyes? Yes, an elevator ride that changed the young man and his wife’s lives forever.

Jim Childers

New Castle


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